It’s difficult having exes who ppl think are the epitome of a good man. Knowing your experience was quite different.
— Millionaire la flare (@DeeRene_) October 14, 2017
Also read: On Fragility https://medium.com/@stacijshelton/on-fragility-22f8e2cb22cc
“Let’s connect the dots between this and Fragility. It’s a way to maintain power, avoid accountability and get protected from messages and consequences all at the same time.” “So when behavior gets called out …or called in, as some people prefer — either way it doesn’t matter — that’s when all hell breaks loose.”
The pic above is from his email to me.
1st: Let’s define Machismo
“Machismo is the sense of being ‘manly’ and self-reliant, the concept associated with “a strong …. These are the same discourses that argue that Latino masculinity (machismo) is defined by violence, recklessness, and misogyny.”
Now if I need to explain why this (his self-proclaimed machismo) is problematic, nothing on this site will make sense to you and you’re probably someone who protects predators in our communities.
2nd: How is having an “issue of communication” a benefit in the work you do as a community leader/organizer, Baba/Awo, spiritual counselor, and someone who works with young people?
3rd: Your Anger is definitely an unaddressed issue that I saw rear its ugly head when we were together. But I guess it’s not anything to be concerned about in the work you do, right?
Asere, my question to you is:
What exactly are you doing to continue (and I quote from your closing statement), “…explore and transform how oppression and pain operate at the deepest level of our being and learn to understand how it is a present that is living and breathing within us.” AND how are you holding yourself accountable other than calling women Queens and Goddesses? (Or is that you still don’t see how YOU ARE part of the problem? Just because YOU don’t see it, does not mean there’s not a problem.)
*I can’t help but wonder what you all think about this r kelly mess. That he’s innocent? That what I’ve been trying to tell you all about Asere and his manipulation is different? That these women are adults and free to choose?*
All — (and please pass on to anyone I’ve missed here): Continue reading Your Collective