Optimism

Because of the emotional strain of thinking about this became too much (and I still rage), I password protected the majority of the pages and posts on this site and sort of walked away for a bit.

However, it still ate away at me, knowing there are many other women in the world experiencing the same things I went through. So:

  • as more and more women hit the streets and become “engaged” in social justice/activism work;
  • with the most recent news of R. Kelly and another woman coming forward;
  • Joss Whedon’s wife telling her story; and
  • the fantastic article written by City Paper about Baltimore artists and abuse,

I’m back.

As time permits, I’ll unlock more of the content, as I’ve seen an increase in organic searches.

As Rep. Maxine Waters Said during last night’s Black Girls Rock, “If You Come For Me, I’m Coming For You.”

Your Collective

H.P., F.L., K.A., K.J., T.P., R.C.

*I can’t help but wonder what you all think about this r kelly mess. That he’s innocent? That what I’ve been trying to tell you all about Asere and his manipulation is different? That these women are adults and free to choose?*

All —  (and please pass on to anyone I’ve missed here): Continue reading Your Collective

Subject: Stockholm Syndrome Re: Collective Letter

From: Email Courtney <EmailMe…>
Date: July 11, 2017 at 1:56:32 PM EDT
Subject: Stockholm Syndrome Re: Collective Letter

Yes. I, Courtney; the proud daughter of two loving and stable parents Brenda and Robert; and the proud descent of healthy and respectable people who taught me how to build sustainable legacy from a place of integrity.

I, Courtney who has been doing “the work” for years now, not because I experienced trauma and decided to “get involved.”

I, who bought a home … to continue the legacy of those before me — as builders, creators and trailblazers — not followers.

I, Courtney, who is the child of strong and proud ancestral lineage, especially self-reliant women of true “power”.

I, Courtney who decided to use a digital platform, just as you all use your bullhorns, Facebook pages, digital popularity, and the streets to take a stance and educate.

I, Courtney, always have and will continue to stand by any claims I make, just as you all stand behind yours (of injustices done at the hands of policing/political systems and “oppressors” as well as one-sided verdicts handed down by corrupt judges and brainwashed jurors).

Don’t make the mistake assuming you know anything about me based on what you’ve dug through in my personal belongings or found online.

Asere’s name is not worth “smearing.” He alone is not worth my time, however, he is just one spoke in the wheel of “oppression.” As he wrote, “Hold me accountable for my anger, machismo and communication” but not as a sexual predator — well, wake up…all three things being tools of an abuser. He is the spoke we read of when reading about misogyny, sexism, etc. in movements that were built on the backs and labor of Black women and fell at the hands of hypocrites with no integrity — those who sold their own out for safety or a dollar. [Safety looks like housing, acceptance, “love” and financial support…]

Continue reading Subject: Stockholm Syndrome Re: Collective Letter

Subject: I’m Done

From: ….Courtney <…sslin.com>
Date: May 6, 2017 at 9:50:46 AM EDT
Subject: I’m Done

Asere what’s up?
I’m tired of the games. I know that you still visit the site.
I’ve still gotten no response from either of you.
I’m setting the date for a community circle for June 11, 2017.
It’s seems that you never had any intent in participating so I’m moving along with my plans.

Kana you responded to my original email to Asere about needed to talk questioning me about why I hadn’t responded to him. Either you’re operating under the guise and lies of sincere concern for resolution (like him), or he’s not cooperating. Either way, this lack of communication is exactly why I ceased communication with him.

Then on On Apr 21, 2017, at 2:04 you sent me an email asking, “Are your looking to do this work? “

Again, I ask, “Really?!”

Are y’all trying to do the work or just talk about it?

Trying to resolve this amicably has been a serious waste of time.

So much for the spirit of community (healing)…

On May 4, 2017, at 9:37 AM, …Courtney <…sslin.com> wrote:

— Please let me know which will work — A Saturday or Sunday (and between what times)?

— Is June 17 or 18 doable?

* Asere you never confirmed belonging to “a house.” Do you actually belong to a house — one that you’ve always belonged to not just recently? And are the elders you mentioned who will be in attendance be from your “house?”

On May 1, 2017, at 2:08 PM, …Courtney <…slin.com> wrote:

– A Wednesday or Thursday afternoon is tough. People are at work and can’t get off. I need a Saturday or Sunday. Let me know which so that I can schedule.

– The circle will need to be in June as folks calendars are already booked for May. I don’t know exact a date yet but looks likes June 17 or 18.

(Aside: Asere this will only make sense to you — Chameleon, Mother, Sea/See….you’ve learned or gained clarity on something.)

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