Reminder:

We are here – this site is here because Asere Bello is a master manipulator and liar. He has used his influence and abused his “power” to cover up the unethical things he does.

We are here because Asere Bello tried to use me as a way to bring impressionable and emotionally/financially vulnerable young women into the house.

We are here because ignorant people decided that it was easier to call me bitter and jealous instead of practicing true community accountability. But as many of you know, calling a woman bitter and jealous just because she speaks out against a man is nothing new.

We are here because many of the people supporting and protecting Asere Bello have never dealt with their own trauma and toxic past.

We are here because him being a spiritual leader, community organizer, program director, etc. who uses the term “ethical slut” to mask what he does and how he does it is dangerous and problematic.

We are here because the young women (in their early 20’s) he surrounds himself with are awe struck and have no idea what they’re getting into.

We are here because no one wanted to believe that Asere Bello “the charismatic community leader” could possibly do anything wrong.

We are here because when the situation was brought to the attention of others (well-known activists, employers and organizers) they didn’t want to get involved although they make a living talking about injustice.

We are here because this identity (of organizer, activists, victim, etc.) is all they have.

We are here because there is a toxic, irresponsible and dangerous “poly” culture in “movement circles” on the rise and is being sold to vulnerable young women as the new “it” when essentially it’s not poly at all, but another way to exploit them for their bodies, time and emotional labor.

We are here because a couple of the men and women who once came to me for help (on various things) but now act like they don’t know me, were secretly hoping he would select them (aka Pick Me’s). And what they didn’t know was I knew all along.

“What happens when a dead woman shows up at your door?” http://www.courtneycrosslin.com/what-happens-when-a-dead-woman-shows-up-at-your-door/

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“Hold me accountable on my real issues of communication, anger and machismo…”

The pic above is from his email to me.

1st: Let’s define Machismo

“Machismo is the sense of being ‘manly’ and self-reliant, the concept associated with “a strong …. These are the same discourses that argue that Latino masculinity (machismo) is defined by violence, recklessness, and misogyny.”

Now if I need to explain why this (his self-proclaimed machismo) is problematic, nothing on this site will make sense to you and you’re probably someone who protects predators in our communities.

2nd: How is having an “issue of communication” a benefit in the work you do as a community leader/organizer, Baba/Awo, spiritual counselor, and someone who works with young people?

3rd: Your Anger is definitely an unaddressed issue that I saw rear its ugly head when we were together. But I guess it’s not anything to be concerned about in the work you do, right?

Asere, my question to you is:

What exactly are you doing to continue (and I quote from your closing statement), “…explore and transform how oppression and pain operate at the deepest level of our being and learn to understand how it is a present that is living and breathing within us.” AND how are you holding yourself accountable other than calling women Queens and Goddesses? (Or is that you still don’t see how YOU ARE part of the problem? Just because YOU don’t see it, does not mean there’s not a problem.)