“We can’t fix what we don’t face.”

“I don’t know if it’s true, but I hope it is, and I hope other Black men catch on. Apologizing for the harm that we’ve caused is good, but there is so much trauma that can be prevented by just working on ourselves. Escaping the ‘hood, getting an education or earning money the legitimate way is not enough— we need to heal.


Many of us need help shining the light on trauma that’s created everything from anger to abandonment issues. Most of us don’t realize that it takes work to heal the pain caused by family, sexual, intra-community, and institutional violence—yeah, all of that. We have to do the work to deal with anger and anxieties, and accepting our insufficiencies. We can’t fix what we don’t face.” Via https://cassiuslife.com/13231/men-jay-z-therapy/

“Framework for a Letter of Responsibility”

“Healing the hurts of the past is a huge challenge for men because we must face and acknowledge our sense of shame and guilt. In order to put abuse behind us and take others along with us involves two important processes:

  1. The first is looking at genuine apologies, and
  2. The second is resignation from the Abuse Club.

However, a word of caution. Others may not be ready or prepared to hear or trust your wish to be different. Promises are only believed when they are actioned!” Via http://www.menssafetyproject.com/safety-tips/writing-a-letter-of-apology