Reminder:

We are here – this site is here because Asere Bello is a master manipulator and liar. He has used his influence and abused his “power” to cover up the unethical things he does.

We are here because Asere Bello tried to use me as a way to bring impressionable and emotionally/financially vulnerable young women into the house.

We are here because ignorant people decided that it was easier to call me bitter and jealous instead of practicing true community accountability. But as many of you know, calling a woman bitter and jealous just because she speaks out against a man is nothing new.

We are here because many of the people supporting and protecting Asere Bello have never dealt with their own trauma and toxic past.

We are here because him being a spiritual leader, community organizer, program director, etc. who uses the term “ethical slut” to mask what he does and how he does it is dangerous and problematic.

We are here because the young women (in their early 20’s) he surrounds himself with are awe struck and have no idea what they’re getting into.

We are here because no one wanted to believe that Asere Bello “the charismatic community leader” could possibly do anything wrong.

We are here because when the situation was brought to the attention of others (well-known activists, employers and organizers) they didn’t want to get involved although they make a living talking about injustice.

We are here because this identity (of organizer, activists, victim, etc.) is all they have.

We are here because there is a toxic, irresponsible and dangerous “poly” culture in “movement circles” on the rise and is being sold to vulnerable young women as the new “it” when essentially it’s not poly at all, but another way to exploit them for their bodies, time and emotional labor.

We are here because a couple of the men and women who once came to me for help (on various things) but now act like they don’t know me, were secretly hoping he would select them (aka Pick Me’s). And what they didn’t know was I knew all along.

“If you don’t know anything about a person’s lineage, be careful before fixing your mouth to tell them they’re doing something wrong or know less than you.”

http://www.courtneycrosslin.com/birthright-buy-in-brought-in

Buyer Be Aware

“I’m hearing more and more stories of “Baba’s” sliding into personal message of women online.” You can read my full take on it here.

What good is this “spiritual guidance” that you all say he offers when you all stay struggling?

Facebook image from public post https://www.facebook.com/OloriOya/posts/1567650636611697 (oh and be sure to read the comments!)

 

 

 

 

 

 

Example: Spiritual Manipulation

For those who know the purpose going to a cemetery means as it relates to Oya (although not traditionally/always associated with cemeteries), will understand why Asere Bello telling me that I needed to stay away was problematic.

He (Asere / Awo Ifatade) only ever wanted to dominate, maintain control and instill fear.

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