“Hold me accountable on my real issues of communication, anger and machismo…”

The pic above is from his email to me.

1st: Let’s define Machismo

“Machismo is the sense of being ‘manly’ and self-reliant, the concept associated with “a strong …. These are the same discourses that argue that Latino masculinity (machismo) is defined by violence, recklessness, and misogyny.”

Now if I need to explain why this (his self-proclaimed machismo) is problematic, nothing on this site will make sense to you and you’re probably someone who protects predators in our communities.

2nd: How is having an “issue of communication” a benefit in the work you do as a community leader/organizer, Baba/Awo, spiritual counselor, and someone who works with young people?

3rd: Your Anger is definitely an unaddressed issue that I saw rear its ugly head when we were together. But I guess it’s not anything to be concerned about in the work you do, right?

Asere, my question to you is:

What exactly are you doing to continue (and I quote from your closing statement), “…explore and transform how oppression and pain operate at the deepest level of our being and learn to understand how it is a present that is living and breathing within us.” AND how are you holding yourself accountable other than calling women Queens and Goddesses? (Or is that you still don’t see how YOU ARE part of the problem? Just because YOU don’t see it, does not mean there’s not a problem.)


Community: Emotional Justice and Accountability

Dear Black Activists, Let’s Talk About Emotional Justice: As an activist, your heart is always at risk of breaking. Seeing your community systemically and strategically attacked and your people endure suffering from every angle, makes you constantly gloomy. But what happens when the heartbreak we bear also comes from those we take arrest with and for? Many activists are righteously tied to a cause greater than their existence and fail to be noble in their personal lives. Seeing people whom I admired stoop to low levels of stubbornness and pettiness, and unwilling to work towards conflict resolution puts greater distance between now and the future we fight for.” Via http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dear-black-activists-lets-talk-about-emotional-justice_us_58c8257ee4b02bfb77583c62?zo2yszjwps1lcjtt9


Enough is Enough!

Internalized Misogynoir, Misogyny and Sexism

Misogynoir is a word used to describe how racism and anti-Blackness alter the experience of misogyny for Black women, specifically. It alludes to specifically Black women’s experiences with gender and how both racism and anti-Blackness alters that experience diametrically from White women (as anti-Blackness and White supremacy make White women the “norm” in terms of intersectional experiences with gender, even as solely via gender, misogyny harms all women) and differently from non-Black women of colour (as though they face racism, the dehumanization associated with anti-Blackness is more than racism or sexualized objectification alone, but speaks to the history of Black bodies and lives treated as those of non-persons).  I recently saw a thread of false information and non-Black women of colour co-opting to erase Black womanhood, Black women’s experiences and Black women’s epistemology from the concept of misogynoir. Again, the origin is in Black womanhood and the term was coined by a queer Black woman, Moya Bailey. (If anyone says it was coined by me, Trudy, or my blog Gradient Lair, they’re incorrect.)” Via http://www.gradientlair.com/post/84107309247/define-misogynoir-anti-black-misogyny-moya-bailey-coined

“The giver of Misogynoir can range from the “educated hotep”, all the way to your favorite white feminist. It’s exemplified in a Black man’s ability to praise Malcolm X yet in the same breath shame Korryn Gaines. It’s society’s shaming of Black women for their “attitude”, yet labeling that same behavior as sass in a Latina woman.” Via http://www.lasmorenasdeespana.com/blog/what-is-misogynoir

“Silence, Ignorance, Resistance and Denial: The Black Community’s Refusal to Acknowledge and Address Misogynoir Against Black Women and Girls”:

The So-called Black Community is silent, resistant, and in denial about the truth and dangers of misogynoir. Try and talk about it and many Negroes are either silent, ignorant, resist or deny. Then comes derailments and deflections. Many Black People believe that sexism and misogyny is not a problem in the Black American Community and the African Diaspora in general. It’s very sad (and frighting) how many Black People walk around as if it is not a MAJOR problem while many Black Women and Girls are suffering in silence physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually because of it .” Via https://tiredsista.wordpress.com/2015/09/18/silence-ignorance-resistance-and-denial-the-black-communitys-refusal-to-acknowledge-and-address-misogynoir-against-black-women-and-girls/