Your Collective

H.P., F.L., K.A., K.J., T.P., R.C.

*I can’t help but wonder what you all think about this r kelly mess. That he’s innocent? That what I’ve been trying to tell you all about Asere and his manipulation is different? That these women are adults and free to choose?*

All —  (and please pass on to anyone I’ve missed here): Continue reading Your Collective

Subject: Collective Letter

You can read my response to their email here and here.

On Jul 10, 2017, at 10:34 AM, Kana A…<healthis…> wrote:

July 9, 2017
Courtney …
Courtney & Associates,
This email letter is sent by women who are committed to community and have been looking into your claims.  This letter is drafted with respect, attention and care.  All comments herein solely reflect the concerns and wishes of its authors.
Courtney …, child of Brenda and Robert …, you and Asere Bello are no longer in relationship (on ANY level) therefore, Asere Bello holds no obligation to partake in any process(es) with you and does not seek any process with you.
Your postings of personal conversations, the logistics of this healing/ accountability process, and showing a general distrust of the process has further made us question what type of resolution you’re looking for when you continuously twist information and spread untruths.
Your continued attempts to smear Asere and the women within his circle are disgusting and disgraceful.   The malicious actions, behaviors and methodology you utilized to incite a platform for outrage and disdain is volatile to say the very least.  In the last three months, you authored and disseminated degrading emails, lies and misleading posts via a website you created to slander Asere Bello.  This deception you carried to Asere Bello’s employer and business associates. Investigations were done and your claims were proven false.
The individuals you’ve identified have provided written accounts and testimony reporting that your interpretations and statements are absolutely false.  Asere Bello is and has been a supportive and positive force in their lives.
Collectively, we’ve been acquainted with and worked alongside Asere Bello for more than twenty years.  Our experiences include personal, professional, spiritual, as well as in community.  Accountability systems have and will always remain in place for the work he does.
We collectively agree that;
    1.  All persons involved in the process be respected and valued for our time and efforts in the matter that has deeply impacted all of our lives.
2. Cease all methods of contact with Asere Bello.
3. Only maintain contact with the designated person assigned via email.
4. That you immediately cease and desist website and all accounts created.
5. Give the website up to designated person and all accounts created.
6. Once the above is done, the designated person, and only that person will reach out to you for final closure.
In collective agreement,


Subject: I’m Done

From: ….Courtney <…>
Date: May 6, 2017 at 9:50:46 AM EDT
Subject: I’m Done

Asere what’s up?
I’m tired of the games. I know that you still visit the site.
I’ve still gotten no response from either of you.
I’m setting the date for a community circle for June 11, 2017.
It’s seems that you never had any intent in participating so I’m moving along with my plans.

Kana you responded to my original email to Asere about needed to talk questioning me about why I hadn’t responded to him. Either you’re operating under the guise and lies of sincere concern for resolution (like him), or he’s not cooperating. Either way, this lack of communication is exactly why I ceased communication with him.

Then on On Apr 21, 2017, at 2:04 you sent me an email asking, “Are your looking to do this work? “

Again, I ask, “Really?!”

Are y’all trying to do the work or just talk about it?

Trying to resolve this amicably has been a serious waste of time.

So much for the spirit of community (healing)…

On May 4, 2017, at 9:37 AM, …Courtney <…> wrote:

— Please let me know which will work — A Saturday or Sunday (and between what times)?

— Is June 17 or 18 doable?

* Asere you never confirmed belonging to “a house.” Do you actually belong to a house — one that you’ve always belonged to not just recently? And are the elders you mentioned who will be in attendance be from your “house?”

On May 1, 2017, at 2:08 PM, …Courtney <…> wrote:

– A Wednesday or Thursday afternoon is tough. People are at work and can’t get off. I need a Saturday or Sunday. Let me know which so that I can schedule.

– The circle will need to be in June as folks calendars are already booked for May. I don’t know exact a date yet but looks likes June 17 or 18.

(Aside: Asere this will only make sense to you — Chameleon, Mother, Sea/See….you’ve learned or gained clarity on something.)

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