This right after I sent you an email reminding you that you ignored me from back in March.
When I finally figured out who and what Asere was and what he was doing, I contacted him (this is before anyone but he and I knew about the site).
And instead of “coming to the table” this so called “reputable” man told me that no one would believe me and tried to hack the website. (Yes. I have proof.)
Also read: On Fragility https://medium.com/@stacijshelton/on-fragility-22f8e2cb22cc
“Let’s connect the dots between this and Fragility. It’s a way to maintain power, avoid accountability and get protected from messages and consequences all at the same time.” “So when behavior gets called out …or called in, as some people prefer — either way it doesn’t matter — that’s when all hell breaks loose.”
We are here – this site is here because Asere Bello is a master manipulator and liar. He has used his influence and abused his “power” to cover up the unethical things he does.
We are here because ignorant people decided that it was easier to call me bitter and jealous instead of practicing true community accountability. But as many of you know, calling a woman bitter and jealous just because she speaks out against a man is nothing new.
We are here because many of the people supporting and protecting Asere Bello have never dealt with their own trauma and toxic past.
We are here because him being a spiritual leader, community organizer, program director, etc. who uses the term “ethical slut” to mask what he does and how he does it is dangerous and problematic.
We are here because the young women (in their early 20’s) he surrounds himself with are awe struck and have no idea what they’re getting into.
We are here because no one wanted to believe that Asere Bello “the charismatic community leader” could possibly do anything wrong.
We are here because when the situation was brought to the attention of others (well-known activists, employers and organizers) they didn’t want to get involved although they make a living talking about injustice.
We are here because this identity (of organizer, activists, victim, etc.) is all they have.
We are here because there is a toxic, irresponsible and dangerous “poly” culture in “movement circles” on the rise and is being sold to vulnerable young women as the new “it” when essentially it’s not poly at all, but another way to exploit them for their bodies, time and emotional labor.
We are here because a couple of the men and women who once came to me for help (on various things) but now act like they don’t know me, were secretly hoping he would select them (aka Pick Me’s). And what they didn’t know was I knew all along.