New Developments:

  • On the evening of 11/11/17, I received an order of protection filed by Kristian “Asere” Bello.
  • You can read more about the order of protection here.
  • After receiving the order of protection that did not fully detail the truth (that I had received emails from Asere and Kana back in April) I decided to really come out and tell my story and I refuse to be silenced.
  • Even prior to the order of protection, I’ve not had time to update the site but will do so as time permits. However, I will continue to try to keep everyone updated on:

#HotepAlafia #freetheland #ethicalslut #machismo #misogynoir #misogyny
#AsereBello #awo_ifatade
#haveAwonderful
#metoo
#believeblackwomen
#orderofprotection
#blacklivesmatter

I Name Names – F’ Your Reputation – What about REALLY protecting vulnerable Black Women?

This article focuses on white women, however this has been my experience with Asere and his minions. So just replace the names in this article with anyone in his circle – AND I MEAN ANYONE!

“During that meeting, I was informed that Kelly was nervous about being so close to me and to how I am willing name people and things when hugging our way to freedom inevitably fails. Why? Because she needed to “protect her reputation” so she could get a book deal, or keep her fragile, White clients happy.” via The Faceless: On Whiteness & Emotional Assassination https://medium.com/@alxpmorgan/the-faceless-on-whiteness-emotional-assassination-2a9dbf1f7a51

None of them are interested in healing unless in includes blaming a white person or for media/social media publicity.

They don’t want to talk about how I gathered Black psychologists to hold a healing space for those after the Akai Gurley trail and only one person showed up – yet they were quickly back in the streets yelling about their trauma.

So yeah — As long as they keep exploiting our pain and protecting Asere without questioning his deeds in Crystal House, why he REALLY holds on to the house (he doesn’t even own) and his manipulation of those who depend on him for housing, finances and acknowledgement, names will fall.

“Leadership isn’t just about taking action when it’s convenient or easy.”

Also read: On Fragility https://medium.com/@stacijshelton/on-fragility-22f8e2cb22cc
“Let’s connect the dots between this and Fragility. It’s a way to maintain power, avoid accountability and get protected from messages and consequences all at the same time.” “So when behavior gets called out …or called in, as some people prefer — either way it doesn’t matter — that’s when all hell breaks loose.”

Reminder:

We are here – this site is here because Asere Bello is a master manipulator and liar. He has used his influence and abused his “power” to cover up the unethical things he does.

We are here because Asere Bello tried to use me as a way to bring impressionable and emotionally/financially vulnerable young women into the house.

We are here because ignorant people decided that it was easier to call me bitter and jealous instead of practicing true community accountability. But as many of you know, calling a woman bitter and jealous just because she speaks out against a man is nothing new.

We are here because many of the people supporting and protecting Asere Bello have never dealt with their own trauma and toxic past.

We are here because him being a spiritual leader, community organizer, program director, etc. who uses the term “ethical slut” to mask what he does and how he does it is dangerous and problematic.

We are here because the young women (in their early 20’s) he surrounds himself with are awe struck and have no idea what they’re getting into.

We are here because no one wanted to believe that Asere Bello “the charismatic community leader” could possibly do anything wrong.

We are here because when the situation was brought to the attention of others (well-known activists, employers and organizers) they didn’t want to get involved although they make a living talking about injustice.

We are here because this identity (of organizer, activists, victim, etc.) is all they have.

We are here because there is a toxic, irresponsible and dangerous “poly” culture in “movement circles” on the rise and is being sold to vulnerable young women as the new “it” when essentially it’s not poly at all, but another way to exploit them for their bodies, time and emotional labor.

We are here because a couple of the men and women who once came to me for help (on various things) but now act like they don’t know me, were secretly hoping he would select them (aka Pick Me’s). And what they didn’t know was I knew all along.