New Developments:

  • On the evening of 11/11/17, I received an order of protection filed by Kristian “Asere” Bello.
  • You can read more about the order of protection here.
  • After receiving the order of protection that did not fully detail the truth (that I had received emails from Asere and Kana back in April) I decided to really come out and tell my story and I refuse to be silenced.
  • Even prior to the order of protection, I’ve not had time to update the site but will do so as time permits. However, I will continue to try to keep everyone updated on:

#HotepAlafia #freetheland #ethicalslut #machismo #misogynoir #misogyny
#AsereBello #awo_ifatade

“Low Energies”


Let’s revisit this email that Asere sent me.

Up until the last few months, this (his) claim really got under my skin.

Now? Not so much because it’s partly true (I just hadn’t come “out the closet yet”).

*And as for that so called “interdependence” in their circle  — No. They are very much codependent on each other, mainly on him for Crystal House and money and he likes it that way.

What REALLY goes on in these “social justice” circles

Hitting my lowest point and thinking I was crazy and that I might have just been imagining things, I started reaching out to many Sisters I knew who were still deep in organizing. Turns out, all had experienced similar and/or had stories of many other (mainly) women who had experienced what I’d gone through.

But what does one do with all of this? How do you address when you’ve never been one out there in the public eye with the bullhorn? Who do you turn to for advice, support or resolution? Even I, who has close connections with Black Psychologists had nowhere to turn for “help.”

The answers eventually came to me and I’ll share more on that later, but for now, I wanted to share this because it is a very serious matter that f*cks up our ability to really “be free” and liberated.

Folks roll into crews, and roll right back out after getting a taste of the dysfunction. And rarely if ever are sustainable movements or foundations built.

Until we get real about our own stuff in our own communities, start holding folks accountable and stop cosigning to folks BS, this will continue.” Continue reading at —  (Part 1) Anguish, Organizing, Activism: Great Rise? at